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Troll… Troll… Troll

Easy Steps on How to Troll People on the Internet by Kathryn Drake

In today’s society, everyone is on the internet in some fashion and will have some type of social media account, whether it is Facebook, Twitter or Instagram. Social media sites have always given the user a platform to say what they want, some post about their daily life, others will rant about something that has happened to them.

Recently, in the last decade, politics have been at the forefront of a lot of people’s social media pages. Then friends will comment back & forth about how they agree or disagree. Then, their friends get involved and sometimes it turns into a shouting battle. With all of this going on, I wonder how easy it would be to troll someone in those comments.

For those who don’t know, trolling is to make a deliberately offensive or provocative online post with the aim of upsetting someone or eliciting an angry response from them.

Here are the steps to troll someone or a group of people: *trolled on Facebook

  1. Find a hot button topic. In this case, the Chloe Dykstra’s sexual assault allegations against ex-boyfriend Chris Hardwick.
  2. Make sure to do a quick research on the topic, this way you can make a point that would be the opposite to what everyone might think. In this case, she never truly came out to name Chris Hardwick but left plenty of clues to make you realize that it was him.
  3. Be one of the first to comment. It makes your ‘argument’ that much stronger. Though don’t be afraid to comment at anytime, if you can rebut anything someone says, it can still get the same reaction.
  4. Make sure to read other people’s comments so you rebut them. Always remember your original argument when commenting.
  5. Try to use some of your personal life in your argument. Here, I used that I was a rape counselor at one point. Chances are, either someone commenting is as well or will do research to see if what you said is correct. Technically, as a rape counselor, we were never to assume anything and just stick to what they were telling us. So, I used that fact to play up that Chloe never said his name, so we shouldn’t jump to conclusions. Once you say something like this, chances are everyone will be at you. This is when you know you got them good.
  6. At this point, you pretty much can just sit back and watch all the drama unfold.

You can use any hot issue in the news, politics and any celebrity scandal are the easiest to use to troll people.

Here is one downfall:

  • You can always tell them you were just trolling them in the long run but they might not believe you.

Though, you successfully trolled people and got to laugh at their expense, so feel good about that. Only do this is you don’t care about what people think about you and think you are an asshole (I call myself Queen Asshole for a reason). If you can about what people might think, then you might want to think twice about trolling someone.

Here it is, the end of June, also known to the world as LGBT Pride Month, I sit here and reflect on the happenings that has taken place this month. First and foremost, we has one of the most tragic mass shootings in United States history down in Orlando at a gay nightclub. 49 people tragically died and over 50 injured, all because they were gay. The shooter happened to be an American Pro Isis fanatic and pledged his allegiance to the terrorist group in a 911 call he made before shooting up the nightclub. The very next day, at the Los Angeles Pride festival and parade, a man was caught with guns and explosives in his car right before the parade was going to start. A few other states made mention of some type of threat during their own pride festivals and they all beefed up police accordantly.

What did we do as a community? We stood together, like we always do. We became vocal about how we need to change gun laws here in America and that the violence needs to stop. Gay and Lesbian bashing needs to stop, Bisexual bashing needs to stop, Transgender bashing needs to stop. The one thing that the Orlando shooting has done has made the LGBT community voice louder. During the funeral of Orlando victims, there were a bunch of supporters who wore angel wings to block out the hateful Westboro Baptist Church from spewing their hate at the victims and their beloved ones. Best part about that, the idea came from an ally.

The equality fight will never die, as much as the right wing extremest try and keep us down. We will fight to be heard, we will fight to be safe, we will fight to be equal. In life, we are equal once we are born. We are human. Every single person on this earth bleeds when they are cut, cry when they something bad happens. That is what makes us human. Problem is, the human brain is something that soaks up information and can be conditioned to either support one another or it can be conditioned to hate. Can a human brain be changed to think differently? Yes. Hate a lot of times is a group thing, not an individual thing. Society tries to teach us that we should hate. That hate has been growing dimmer and dimmer over time. The LGBT community voice is strong. We will not be silent. We will continue to fight for our right to exist.

It does not matter if you are Gay. It does not matter if you are a Lesbian. It does not matter if you are Bisexual. It does not matter if you are Transgender. You are a human being. That right there, makes us equal, just like everyone else. Now, it is time to make them realize this.

Coming Out Publicly

About one month ago, I had been looking at two different profiles on Facebook, both my male and my female pages. Unlike here, I kept things separate for a variety of reasons. Then, Bruce Jenner had come out as Transgender and was on the cover of Vanity Fair magazine as her new self, Caitlyn. I was and still am very proud of her for being brave enough to come out publicly and share with the world of who she truly was. That is when the wheels started to turn in my head about still somewhat being in the closet. Granted, everyone knows I am bisexual. Everyone knows that I have multiple partners in my life, both make and female. What a lot of people did not know was about being Transgender. Granted, I never truly hid it. This blog is evident of that. However, not a lot of my friends read this blog, so I knew that they wouldn’t really know. Then, People started to bash Caitlyn Jenner for being Trans. A friend, who is a big LGBT supporter, posted something about her on his Facebook and a few people were bashing Caitlyn in the comments. I tried to comment back, but then realized… how can I truly fight back when I am still in hiding. So, I went onto Daniel’s Facebook and posted something I had actually posted here a few blogs ago


I was scared to death of doing this because I do have family on my friend’s list but at the same time, I don’t care what they think of me. Here is what I wrote: “Yes, I am Transgender. Some people know, some might know…. If you didn’t, now you do. If I lose friends (or even family) over this… have a nice life.” 57 friends have liked it, a lot of comments were posted, all positive, even from some family members, not all though.

Coming out as Transgender allows me to do a lot. Not only do I not have to truly hide in shame about my true self (except at work still… not ready for them to know yet but at the same time, they do not need to know just yet either). It is now also easier for me to fight for Trans Rights as I am standing up for my rights. I am also showing to a younger generation that it is ok to be yourself and not what society says you have to be. I feel like my voice is more powerful coming from a Transgender than someone who hides.

So here is to a new and improved me. Next step, finding a doctor that I can start the process of changing into what I rather be.

3 Months tomorrow…

I am very proud of my Dani. When I first met her 15 years ago, she was full of life, open to explore new things and a very happy loving girl. She then, met her ex (not saying names, even though he isn’t on my list). Somehow, she had changed. She wasn’t the same. She wasn’t smiling as much, she didn’t really go places… it was as if her life force was altered. In a way, it was to please her ex as he stifled her creativity and who she really was. She was like this for 8 years.

After the 8 years, she finally woke up from that horrible-ness. She still wasn’t the same as he really hurt her. Which is understandable, he only truly looked out for himself. Take for instance when she has her gall bladder out. Was he by her bedside? NO. He was in another state, at a baseball game, if i remember correctly. Dani also knows some more famous (or infamous) people and he would ALWAYS see if she could get a hook up. They always had to go to sporting events (and his teams) for everything and never anything that she wanted to do. No real culture related things.

Then, her and I started to talk about possibly dating, only this time, I am in a Poly relationship. This was new to her but still wanted to learn and grow. This was the first sign of the old Dani that I first fell in love with 15 years ago (didn’t go out with her back then as I had just gotten out of a relationship myself and I didn’t want her to just be a rebound girl as I respect her just as much as I love her). Since we started dating 3 months ago tomorrow, she has been smiling more, loving life more, growing as a person each day. I am glad to be a part of her re-discovering her true self.

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